OK, I know I get on this website and want to see what everyone is doing. But how do you talk your husband into going to Corfu 2 years in a row. I took him there for our honeymoon last summer for his first time (my third), and want to go back this summer. I know it's a long way. But I would much rather go there than Mexico, or anywhere else as a matter of fact!!. Being American we have a selective choice of vacation scenes. I want everyone to encourage my husband to go back with me and give great massive reasons about why he should go. If it doesn't work, well, you don't even want to know! Thank you for you support!!!
Jules
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Dear Jules - Now, this is only my opinion, but how would you feel if your new husband got a group of his friends to gang up on you to talk you into something you had said "no" to?? Just curious. (It's not like he's never been to Kerkyra). The way you put it, it seems like you will have no peace if this doesn't go well.....I live in Florida and it's a 2-day ordeal (barring any delays)of travelling from here to the place we all love. I say give the guy a break - two years in a row is a bit much for a newcomer, methinks. If you are unable to persuade him to make the journey again this year, better to keep the peace and come every other year instead. God has 3 answers for everything: Yes, No and Wait. God Bless. Love and light, Carin (Been making the trek since 1979)
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Thank you for your opinion. I'm sorry if I want the whole Corfu Travel Guide to encourage my husband to go back with me. My husband had a great time there last summer. And I know that I have been giving him a hard time about going back. Only because he doesn't have a lot of vacation time. I have a free schedule and it's much easier for me to travel. He really wants to go back. I am the traveller of the family. I feel bad for MAKING him want to go places with me. But, I feel that that is a big part of life. Unfortunately, Americans have short holidays. Please don't feel that I am forcing him to come back to Corfu. That sound pretty weird, I wish someone would force me. It's kinda funny you're saying "give the guy a break". You make it sound like I want to take him to Tijuana. And what's wrong with two years in a row to Corfu. You make it sound like torture. It is a long flight. But we felt it was worth the wait. Do I see that you will be there is 4 months, 3 days. So what's the hurry! God Bless!
Jules
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Well how about suggesting you spend your 1st wedding anniversary out there - might work as its quite a romantic idea
But in my opinion you have to engineer it so they think its their idea like possibly giving him a couple of ideas that you know he won't like at all and you never know he may then suggest it himself LOL
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Judie - that sounds like the voice of an experienced 'suggester' - lol.
Yes, the trick is always to make men think they thought up the idea themselves - hehehe!
Jules - that is a great suggestion by Judie! As a newly married couple, how can a doting husband not want to spend the first wedding anniversary at the place where you were married!!!
I know what short holidays [vacations] working people get in the States so yes, you can't afford to waste it. Let him choose where to go next year. I'd say that is fair!
Jan16
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Now, I feel bad by being so loud about it! You know, Jan is probably a lot like me, we think we can fix everything. Thank you for trying to help! Keep it coming!
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Exactly, 32 hours on a plane ride doesn't compare to 2 miserable weeks in Mexico. Corfu, here we come. But why do I have to make it feel like it was his idea if I'm the one taking him there?
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Jules - You always have to let them think IT WAS THEIR IDEA.
It let's them think that they make the decisions as the Head of the House.
You as the ever loving Wife just smile sweetly at them with a doting smile, and inside laughing yourself silly because you are going to where you wanted to go.
Enjoy Corfu and your 1st Wedding Aniv.
Viv D
Message posted by Jan16 on 29 January 2007 at 11:03pm - IP Logged
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Being of ancient years and having been married for twenty of them, it just makes life easier for everybody, that's all. Men generally tend to get very mulish and dig their heels in if they think they are being forced to do something - well, in my experience anyway!
At the end of the day, he's happy, you are happy and you get to go where you want!
I would say you do have to compromise sometimes and of course it is only fair to give him his choice of destination once in a while though.
Cheers.
Jan16
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You've got some good ideas here - anyway you asked about "what's my rush?" My last trip to my beloved island was 10 years ago.. ..... First was in 1979 to visit my sister-in-law who lived there. A Corfiot man saved my life that year, and I've been back 7 times since then - I've always fantasized about bringing a lover with me one day - but alas, that has never come about - So I do know how you feel (wanting to share something you love with someone you love) When it is meant to be, it will be. If you force things, they break. (But you might try playing a lot of Greek music and making Greek food for dinner ) to remind him of the wonderful time you shared there....that might help (I'm on you side, really - but try to make it come about naturally - don't push) GOOD LUCK - Love and light, Carin
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I agree with you having like you been married 22 years next month, it just makes life easier and everyone stays happy.
and Suzibrean is right the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. So brush up on that Greek cooking and your away.
I can prove this is true on New Years Day this year I cooked Leg of Lamb to a charcoal effect (yes I burnt it) but that is how my other half likes it, I also done an aubergine dip and Zastiki also made a Baklava followed by Greek Coffee. Lo and behold not only do I have my two weeks in Corfu in July - I am getting an extra week in September.
Try it Jules.
Viv D
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HI Jules,I have been married over 50 years but there is nothing safe about it We are going to give it 99years and if it does nt work out She will go her way and I will go my way SAYING that Longbeach even with the queen mary there does not compare with CORFU Why not do as has been suggested. You pick one year CORFU and the next year he can pick MEXICO CABO SAN LUCAS is a great place AGIOS GORDIOS type place with good night life too Tiye this E-mail WWW. VRBO73394.com and keep the love for ever THE HIGHLANDER
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...Well the only thing i came up with as my wife does not wont to go back to Corfu later this year as she has been three years in a row....(By the way i love Mexico but not (Cancun) but the Yucatan the Maya Riviera)was there last year also...so getting back to wear we weer.....Ill go with you to Corfu and my wife can go with your husband...Hows that..(Only jokeing)...Wear abouts do you go in Mexico we have met over the years so Meany great Americans and having a wonderful laugh with them on the July the forth celebrations like in playa Del Carmen last year they sure do know how to party there i can tel you.... The first year we went to in 1998 was to porta adventurous on the Pacific side and three years to the Yucatan...And would dearly like to go back to Mexico...But Alas the wife wonted a complete change this year and we are of to Thailand for three weeks looking at temples and the like she also wonts to be able to do some Thailand cooking while she is there...But i have got a bit of my own way as to taking time out and going down to Koh Chang....I have been marred now for thirty three years now and in a relationship like that you have to give and take as to what the wife likes once in a while(lol)...Well that is of my opinion any way..Chris
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I'm with you, Caba San Lucas is great, also Hualtulca. Hated Cancun though.
I'm off to Ag Gordios in June, went last year with a friend for the first time. Loved it so much persuaded my husband to go this year, but he's not really keen. So I'm just hoping he'll go with an open mind. I can't see how anyone can dislike it though. Fingers crossed.
Val
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Quote: Originally posted by juleslongbeach on 29 January 2007
OK, I know I get on this website and want to see what everyone is doing. But how do you talk your husband into going to Corfu 2 years in a row. I took him there for our honeymoon last summer for his first time (my third), and want to go back this summer. I know it's a long way. But I would much rather go there than Mexico, or anywhere else as a matter of fact!!. Being American we have a selective choice of vacation scenes. I want everyone to encourage my husband to go back with me and give great massive reasons about why he should go. If it doesn't work, well, you don't even want to know! Thank you for you support!!!
Jules
Hi Jules,
This should be easy for you, if you explain we were there on our honeymoon so (I hope for your sake) "you" did not see much of Corfu, and as I have been there three times I would like to show you around.
I would have thought you being a woman what I said above woud have been easy for you to have worked out what to have said to get your own way!
Good luck with your vacation in Corfu,
TheChef
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I'm also taking my husband to Corfu for our first wedding anniversary! I have been there about 5 times and lived there for one season.
I'm afraid i didn't give my husband much choice as i booked it as a suprise for him which i gave to him for Christmas, he was really chuffed and is looking forward to his first trip there.
Maybe it's an idea?
Good luck, Steph
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HI VAL, Thats the best offer I have had all day ,But Iam sure you can talk you husband into anything so wonderfull as youself and CORFU at the same place HIGHLANDER
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Blimey Jules... it`s easy, after 30 years in the "wow darling what a great idea you just had" club.... any of the following will do..
At all times however, you need to have Greek music softly playing (we are talking subliminal) Greek cooking and then follow up with one or more of these....
1) Oh darling.... our wedding day and honeymoon were the happiest days ever.... let`s recreate that special time for our 1st anniversary.....
2) just book it anyway and hand him the ticket as an anniversary pressie, but do it quick before he does the same to you with a ticket to Mexico....
3) "If you loved me you would"...... You have got to be pretty mean to use that one...
4) Withhold all "wifely" duties.... claiming that you can only manage it in Corfu...
5) Start discussing Divorce Lawyers....
6) Would Mexico really be that bad??? I have been going to Corfu for 22 years this year and will be moving over permanantly in October.... all my husbands idea of course but we have, in that time travelled to many, many other countries, surely, so long as you are both together thats all that matters?
Good luck.
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Poor guy if he dot wanna go dont make him !!!, and by the way you girls , us guy's are not always so guillable to think your ideas are ours !! we just go along with it for the peace and quiet !!!
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Quote: Originally posted by countryboy on 02 February 2007
we just go along with it for the peace and quiet !!!
Are you sure about that or is it what we want you to think? The end result is still that we girls get our way.
Deedee
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Quote: Originally posted by suzibren on 30 January 2007
Hi Jules -
You've got some good ideas here - anyway you asked about "what's my rush?" My last trip to my beloved island was 10 years ago.. ..... First was in 1979 to visit my sister-in-law who lived there. A Corfiot man saved my life that year, and I've been back 7 times since then - I've always fantasized about bringing a lover with me one day - but alas, that has never come about - So I do know how you feel (wanting to share something you love with someone you love) When it is meant to be, it will be. If you force things, they break. (But you might try playing a lot of Greek music and making Greek food for dinner ) to remind him of the wonderful time you shared there....that might help (I'm on you side, really - but try to make it come about naturally - don't push) GOOD LUCK - Love and light, Carin
Carin, I see you definately aren't rushing things. I was just being a big baby! It's funny you mentioned playing Greek music and making Greek food. My husband loves my Greek salads. Last week I bought all of the ingredients to make one, but we've been on different schedules so I haven't been able to share it with him (I work nights). We did manage to get on the ipod website together. I suggested Greek music CD's and we found some really good ones. We listed to the music for a little while. He enjoys it as much as I do. You're right about pushing things. It will get old. I told him that too the other day. I was going to show him what everyone has said about my comment. He thought it was funny and knows I really want to go. I am hoping for the beginning of July. So, it's not written in stone, yet. I just don't want to go with anyone else. Ok, I better stop writing. Thank you so much for your advice! Have a great time this summer!
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You have a glorious summer too - and count your blessings. Wishing you the best time wherever you wind up. By the way, In 1986 I took my two girls (8 and 10 yrs. old) to Long Beach to see the Queen Mary and the Spruce Goose - what a great vacation that was.... Unforgettable. Love and light, Carin
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Quote: Originally posted by countryboy on 02 February 2007
Poor guy if he dot wanna go dont make him !!!, and by the way you girls , us guy's are not always so guillable to think your ideas are ours !! we just go along with it for the peace and quiet !!!
I agree with you country boy,,, There is NO WAY I would want to be with any man in Corfu who doesn't want to be there. This vacation is doomed before it starts. Keira
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Just get out all your happy holiday/ wedding photos and momentoes and I am sure he will come round. With the extra memories around him you will be booking that holiday.
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Quote: Originally posted by countryboy on 02 February 2007
Poor guy if he dot wanna go dont make him !!!, and by the way you girls , us guy's are not always so guillable to think your ideas are ours !! we just go along with it for the peace and quiet !!!
So what your saying is that my husband went on a 3 week vacation to Europe last summer with me that I paid for, just to keep me quiet. I guess he would have rather stayed home in 120 weather, swatting bugs off of his body, staring at cactus, and drinking beer from the local convenience store while sitting by our 105 degree pool. He's so guillable.
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Quote: Originally posted by Windy on 31 January 2007
Hi Jules,
I'm also taking my husband to Corfu for our first wedding anniversary! I have been there about 5 times and lived there for one season.
I'm afraid i didn't give my husband much choice as i booked it as a suprise for him which i gave to him for Christmas, he was really chuffed and is looking forward to his first trip there.
Maybe it's an idea?
Good luck, Steph
He'll love it. My husband had a great time. I think the part he liked most was driving the scooters around the island. He had a motorcycle before we met. So, hiring a scooter reminded him of that. I don't know if you are against that, but if you are, then hire a car and drive around and see the different beaches. There is a lot to do in Corfu. See the places that aren't so "touristy". Well, you would already know that. If you do hire scooters, get your own (don't ride double). It's much safer. Just go at your own pace. Also, look at the map and use the small roads. We found some really great roads without traffic. You have to watch out for the street signs if you want to make a turn to find your direction. It's not posted very clearly. We rode through areas with beautiful olive trees, old houses, and Monesteries. I love that the most. What does he enjoy at home? In know you can also rent a boat and drive around the island. Haven't done that yet but would love to. Agni Travel will help you with that if you are interested. Good luck!
Jules
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My husband (still sounds weird saying that!) used to ride motorbikes and we did hire a scooter on honeymoon (Santorini & Naxos) but i'm not so confident. I think we will definately hire a boat for the day and enjoy the coves and also hire a car for a few days and go sightseeing!
Thanks for all your advice, i must admit i'm a bit rusty, its been 13 years!
Hope wherever you end up you enjoy your first wedding anniversary
Windy x
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On a practical note, I suggest you look into ways to reduce the journey time and make the travelling part of the vacation and less of an ordeal. Maybe if you spend a couple of days less in Corfu and break the journey it will appeal more to him. I assume you are flying from LAX. If so, you could fly to London, stay overnight or leave on a direct flight to Corfu later that day and do the same on the return. Other options: stop off in Venice or Athens.
If I were you, I would consider flying to Athens on the way out, staying there for a night or two to recover and then on to Corfu. On the return, I would fly from Corfu to London Gatwick, stay overnight and then fly back to LAX the next day. This would give you about 9 days in Corfu and you would be less tired. If you want any details of flight options PM me. If you do the research and come up with a better way to get there, your husband may like the idea.
Carolena
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like possibly giving him a couple of ideas that you know he won't like at all and you never know he may then suggest it himself LOL
32 hours on a plane ride doesn't compare to 2 miserable weeks in Mexico. Corfu, here we come. But why do I have to make it feel like it was his idea if I'm the one taking him there?
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