'So glad you enjoyed Arillas and I've got to agree with everything you say, especially about "making it as quiet or as hectic as you like".
My husband and I went to Arillas in May last year for the first time and we have returned many times since then......each time accompanied by friends and family who have all fallen under the spell of Arillas and it's very friendly people.
Sailor, it certainly is worth considering a stay in Arillas, apart from Arillas itself, it is a great base to see the rest of the west coast. I've fallen in love with the walk up to Afionas (especially in the springtime), it's lovely church and belltower,it's breathtaking views south to Agios Georgios, (best enjoyed from Dionysos Taverna).....the fabulous views north to Arillas and San Stephanos, best enjoyed in the evening watching the sunset. Then there is the coastal walk from Arillas over to San Stefanos....I could go on and on....