Just a theory, I notice you are both AOL. They had a problem like this not so long ago where AOL users were having troubles with certain sites. It could be the same problems as Dawn (bobbiesgirls) was having the weekend with NTL. They were given a LAN to put back into their Internet Options, and this seemed to work.
See if you can find the thread, its only about a week or so old. It may help. If not, as you are both AOL, see if you can get onto them.
I know the site is acting slow again, but that is par for the course for the past week or so, but that is the CTG Server problem. We are all suffering with that. But I am having no problems logging on. Hope this may help you both.